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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 14:18:54 GMT -5
hehehe
with knowledge comes fear. As you get older..you learn more....find more things to fear..until you learn more to understand that you don't need to fear them.
Besides...its instincts to have sex with something..I think we can all agree on that. However its not until 9-13 before we obtain these urges. Its not a learned response...simply doesn't kick in until later in life.
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Post by chaucer on Dec 30, 2005 14:25:32 GMT -5
man this thread...took me 20 mins to catch up.
Isabo: i knew u were a teacher...explains a lot about u
seams everyone in very intelegent in their own merit...Nauren and I share the views of simplicity.
Just wanna throw out a new topic bc it seams Sex and repoduction is dying. This has been on my mind for a while.
Why are Marriage so failed in the US especially? is it the lack of effort...is it bc ppl don't need each other like they did before...those maybe right answers...but i think it's more than that.
I find in our current society, that ppl want to marry bc of love. but ppl fall in love for the wrong reasons and they fall in love to things that are ephemeral.
the way u look and ideas u feel are all things that will change in time...a car accident can change the way u look...and death in the family can change the way u feel and the philosphy u hold... i feel if u fall in love with someone for those reasons. u are bound to fall out of love.
what is left then? i feel the way to true love is falling in love with the soul of someone... something that is eternal and non-waivering. our society is based so much on sex and ideas that we fall in love with those things but that is why so many marriages fail....bc those things change in a person.
i have more to say but i'll throw that out first and see if anyone wants to talk about that. I especially want to know the thoughts of ppl that are in love and have a succesful relationship.
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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 14:31:16 GMT -5
eh.. I've always said and have it copyrighted as a matter of fact
"A lost love is never forever lost but only to be found in someone else"
I fell in love...and got married and still am in Love. The problem is making yourself realize that being in love isn't always that tingly feeling you get.
Parachuting is extremely fun and your adrenaline rushes...but after 100 times you will not produce as much adrenaline...but it doesn't make it any less fun. might be a bad analogy but love or parachuting your taking a leap.
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Post by tarick on Dec 30, 2005 14:43:36 GMT -5
I can see many reasons why more marriages fail these days, than in prior days.
1) Because it has become socially acceptable for marriages to fail.
The number one reason, in my opinion. Back in the day, if your marriage sucked, most people just dealt with it, cause that's what you did. You didn't have 3 marriages.
2) People change
The person you fell in love with is not the person you are married to now. You have changed and they have changed. Again, back in the day, you just adapted. Nowadays, it's acceptable to say, we don't love each other anymore, let's split.
3) Women in the workforce
Again, back in the day, gentleman or not, the home setup was that the man brought the paycheck home, while the woman took care of the house, and of him, and of the kids. I think that not having these clearly defined, accepted roles in the family contributes to less stability in the relationship.
4) The global world.
People were exposed to a lot fewer options. Internet dating is huge right now. I'm betting alot of people that use it are currently married.
I think #1 is the main contributor and the others just play a smaller role.
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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 14:50:55 GMT -5
Yuna and myself met online. Yahoo chat as a matter of fact. 3 years ago and we are married already lol. We are prone (due to statistics) for a divorce. But I don't see that ever happening really. We get on each others nerves alot but we couldn't live without each other at the same. Just as long as she doens't find out about my other girlfriends on the side we are good to go  I think our openess helps alot. There are alot of people int he LS that really know how open Yuna and I really are. I'm allowed to really flirt with other girls and she is ok wtih it and vice versa. Hell Chaucer is gonna hook me up with a red head asian if I ever get to Boston again lol. |
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Post by _Code on Dec 30, 2005 14:51:52 GMT -5
and I quote "Its too windy coldy outside" no typo's you wanna talk about fear sleeping. Codeine said alot of shit in his sleep. "no, its mexican style watermelons" I have a sleep disorder man, can't hold it against me! The fact that it's at 8 or 9 that you recall being afraid of the dark would seem to me to reinforce that this is a learned response. Why were you more afraid at 8 or 9 than you were at 2? At 2, the only thing to be afraid of is that you can't see the things that comfort you. By 8 or 9, you've been exposed to many things, real and imaginary, that would cause that particular fear. If i remember correctly about stories of naurens father, he was quite the trixter. I know my father gave me reason to be afraid of the dark on our camping trips.... |
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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 14:54:51 GMT -5
hehe I though code was gonna retaliate with my sleeping babble.
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Post by chaucer on Dec 30, 2005 14:58:21 GMT -5
lol nauren...good insight nauren and tarick ty.
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Post by tarick on Dec 30, 2005 15:10:09 GMT -5
hehe I though code was gonna retaliate with my sleeping babble. He could never understand what you were saying with his (*&*( in your mouth. |
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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 15:14:06 GMT -5
hahahaha
that BS. can you talk with an ink pen i your mouth? thank you very much.
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Post by tarick on Dec 30, 2005 15:21:47 GMT -5
hahahaha that BS. can you talk with an ink pen i your mouth? thank you very much. Not if I'm sucking on the pen. |
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Post by Nauren on Dec 30, 2005 15:25:01 GMT -5
trust me..there is much more to it then sucking...I mean...*cough* ask yuna.
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Post by _Code on Dec 30, 2005 15:31:29 GMT -5
I know i've missed alot, wish I had caught this earlier.
I agree with alot of Tarick and Nauren's points. My points
1) its an archaic arrangement. Outdated logic and ideal's based on a different way of life. And, frankly, the idea's haven't evolved.
2) Marriage and divorce is heavily sided to the women. After a divorce, the man is at extreme risk. Not only can the woman take 1/2 of the entire man's life earnings, but earnings potential as well? wtf is that? And say whatever you will, its not an even system in this regards. Woman is adulterous, and the man will still get fucked. Imagine being a good father, husband, your wife cheats, and you lose the right to see your children, lose half of everything you've accrewed throughout your life, + what you can potentially earn in the future.
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Post by _Code on Dec 30, 2005 15:33:43 GMT -5
hehe I though code was gonna retaliate with my sleeping babble. Code didn't see your sleeping babble comment. So as my resting marionette angled friend once said. "Leggo my weeble wobble whichever ever way you go, assfucker". _Code |
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Post by tarick on Dec 30, 2005 15:39:17 GMT -5
Weeble Wobble, huh?
Mine usually falls down when I'm done.
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